Saturday, February 15, 2014

Some Cyber-Bullying Truths

It's been a long time since I've posted something here. I'm a traditionalist, I still hate tumblr. I don't even know how to use the the thing. I'm just got off a cold and a side of respiratory infection that left me feeling like I jumped from a 10 meter high dive, and completly missed the pool but I'm sure my toes were pointed nice and pretty. I've decided today I'm going to tackle some aspects of cyber-bullying.  I've got some experience in the field, I was getting cyber-bullied before it was popular enough to have a house hold name. Anybody remember MSN Groups?.....yeah didn't think so.

Cyber-Bullying has become something of a modern day staple, thanks in large part to social sites like facebook and twitter. Young people and even immature adults have even more time to cyber-bully because a high-speed internet connection is in your back pocket. So what are some things, You can do if you're being cyber-bullied and also would like to avoid cyber-bullying? Here are some of the things, I would do today or did in the past.

1. If you're being cyber-bullied there is a large likelihood, that somebody from your school or work is par-taking in or may even be at the epicentre.  Print off a copy of the insults, slurs and threats that you're receiving, then take them and talk to your principle or boss. They have the authority especially in a school, to bring in IT to peak around it's network and see if they can flag matches on student/ employee log-ins to the stuff you've received. 

2. If you're being cyber-bullied, sometimes it's due to your own negligence. Take a look at your own online history as well as how you've been treating people in the real world. If you've found some indiscretions find that person(s) online or in person and issue an apology and that may well be all it takes to end your brush with being cyber-bullied.

3. Take ownership of your online content. The things you post can open you up for an attack, especially regarding the images you share. Ask yourself " Can I send this to Grandma?" if you answer NO, don't email it, text it or send it out.

4. Don't Sext or have Skype Sex( Is that even a thing?), Just avoid it. Because often this is how those slut rumours really heat up online. Unless you have some kind of odd twist to your marriage, this isn't an activity you should be indulging in.

5. If your a parent, it truly is your responsibility to check what your young people are doing online or with their phones. Even if they're fabulous kids, sometimes kids slip and you don't want them stuck.  So check your kids histories once or twice a month.  Take time to talk to them about cyber-bullying and educate yourself about it.

6.  Have thick skin, and remember " Those Who Mind Don't Matter, and those Who Don't Mind Matter". Never let the insecure delusions or bullying in your daily life and online...break your spirit. Because you'll always be better than that.

These are just some of the things, I recommend doing regarding cyber-bullying.


Sunday, January 19, 2014

You LOOK FINE, now get over yourself

I can't believe it, I have not wrote anything since November! I have been a very very naughty blogger, like super naughty. NOPE I wasn't off filming porn. I want to talk about something thats partially personal but totally relevant to a lot of people, HOW YOU LOOK!

I'll be honest, for a lot time I hated how I looked. I had no body dsyphoria or shame in that regard. Although I was told by many people I did, because I didn't wear what was popular and wasn't one for showing off my God Given Assets like floats during Macy's Thanksgiving parade. I did however really  of hate my face. I hated almost everything about it, and I disliked being short. I also hated my hands and for a long time extra muscle in my legs

I've always been baby faced, even through puberty my face changed a bit. It hardened in areas but I still looked 12. The other boys and girls finished puberty looking like men and women around 17 and 18 and I still looked like Dennis the Menace with a tan. It added a whole new dimension of crap to a childhood that revolved around surviving bullies, being picked on and having the teacher side with the bully, since the bullies had more friends to back their fake stories.

It got to the point where I spent more time inside on the computer or playing video games, than I did outside doing things and making friends, going to the mall or spending time at the beach. Sure I made a name for myself as an editor for stuntmen, but I also lost a lot of myself. I was biding my time existing and not living. I didn't even really want to take pictures with people. One day, I got up and said "SCREW IT" it was the smartest choice I've made regarding myself image.

I realized I spent all that time aspiring to look like somebody, who wasn't me. I became the worst person on judging a person by looks, except the only person I ever judged was me and it sucked the life out of me damn near.

At that moment, I saw one Hot Son of Gun looking back at me in the mirror.  I was finally able to see ME. I think I finally started to see, what a lot of other people saw. A kind face with with honey brown bedroom eyes, reddish pink lips that always look kiss swollen, A dimple on my cheek that only came out to play when I smile. I started seeing hands that were strong enough to open jars, hands that showed they've done work, created and made things even though they were sorta small. Those same muscles in my legs that I hated because they could give the illusion of hips and often had. I saw what they were muscular legs that signified hard work and dedication to my sports.

Society may teach us to be uptight about appearances and sometimes, life calls for that to a certain degree like job interviews and work place tattoos. But what impedes us the most regarding our looks and appearance it's ourselves. Ultimately we have to buck up, grow up and realize we look fine and just over ourselves.

That's me
Own what you got kids, sometimes you're just wearing the wrong jeans. It's ok to take fashion cues and suggestions to.

I may not be George Clooney, David Beckham or J.LO  but I'm one hot ME.